Parenting in Islam
Raising children with deen, mercy and good character
Contents
1. Children are a trust
Children are an amanah from Allah. Our job is to love them, protect them, provide for them, and help them know and love Allah.
2. Welcoming a newborn
- Thank Allah and share the good news.
- Tahneek: the Prophet ﷺ softened a date and rubbed it on a newborn’s palate (Sahih al-Bukhari 5467).
- Give a good name with a beautiful meaning.
- Aqiqah on the seventh day (or later), shaving the head and giving charity.
- Many families say the Adhan softly in the baby’s right ear.
3. Mercy before everything
- Hug your children, play with them, listen to them.
- Correct the behaviour, not the child’s worth. Never humiliate.
- Be fair between children in gifts and attention: “Fear Allah and be just between your children” (Sahih al-Bukhari 2587).
4. Teaching Salah and the Quran
- Pray where they can see you. Children copy what they see.
- Start with short surahs: Al-Fatihah, Al-Ikhlas, Al-Falaq, An-Nas.
- Make the masjid a happy place.
- Find a good Quran teacher early, and praise every small step.
5. Screens, friends and the teenage years
- Agree family rules for phones and screens — times, places and content — and follow them yourself.
- Know your children’s friends and welcome them home.
- Talk openly about growing up, modesty and the body, in an age-appropriate way.
- Teens need more listening, less lecturing. Ask their views.
- Give responsibility step by step: chores, money, decisions.
6. Dua for your children
For righteous offspring
رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ
Rabbi hab li minas-salihin
My Lord, grant me righteous children.
Quran, Surah As-Saffat 37:100
For prayer in the family
رَبِّ اجْعَلْنِي مُقِيمَ الصَّلَاةِ وَمِنْ ذُرِّيَّتِي
Rabbij’alni muqimas-salati wa min dhurriyyati
My Lord, make me one who establishes prayer, and from my descendants.
Quran, Surah Ibrahim 14:40
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